There is virtually no way to shield your children entirely from the pain of a divorce. However, you can work to minimize the stress associated with the process. The team at Kallemeyn & Kallemeyn understands the impact of a divorce on your entire family and will work with you to navigate the process of putting your kids first at each and every step. Here are some tips for protecting your children during divorce:
1. Be open with your kids: Explain in detail what you expect to happen during the divorce so that they are not anxious of the unknown. Keeping the lines of communication open will go a long way to helping them cope with the change.
2. Do not talk negatively about your spouse: Make it a priority NOT to say bad things about your soon to be ex-spouse, even when you feel angry or are emotional. Your kids are part of you AND part of your ex. It is important that your children are not used as pawns in your divorce.
3. Model positive behavior: If you show your kids that you are mature and calm, then they will take their cues from you and adjust more easily.
4. Do not use your child as a messenger: It is up to you to continue to communicate with your ex during and after a divorce is final. Resist the temptation to relay messages to your spouse via your child.
5. Reassure your kids: You cannot tell your kids you love them too many times. Divorce is a time of intense pain, anger, and disappointment for you. Reminding your kids how much you love them will help them adjust to the changes that are ahead.
Put your Children First during the Divorce Process
Lisa Kallemeyn of Kallemeyn & Kallmeyn has focused her entire career on family law in Hennepin County, MN. She is a divorce lawyer and a divorce mediator so she can help you find the best way for you to navigate your divorce, depending on your unique situation. Lisa can also help you put your children first and keep them as your priority throughout the process. Lisa realizes that it is often better for a family when they do not have to go through the litigation process. If at all possible, Lisa will work to settle your case without a court battle. This can reduce the emotional and financial stress of your divorce, which can benefit both you and your children. For more information about the divorce process, call Lisa at (763) 427-5131.